Some days, I know life is beautiful. I’ve got this. I see the big picture. I see where I am driving the project. Something came through. I am proud of myself – see how far I have come, the wonderful people in my life, how much I have grown, I think with joy. I am patient with myself. Life is good and I am winning at it. Nothing will be allowed to bring me down.
Other days something too small to get me just gets me and I am sinking. Something I was hoping for doesn’t go through. Something interrupts my good day and pisses me off. How am I still not well-adjusted and the rest of the world seems to be? How come that person treated me that way? What did I do wrong? I recall something from so long ago that may have me in a cycle of rumination, or regret, or wishing for something else, or even despair. Or maybe it has all the makings of a good day but I just can’t seem to find my mojo.
Does this happen to you too?
None of these thoughts and emotions are good or bad or out of place. They are just human. But it helps to remember that we are more than the feelings we go through and the hundreds of thoughts that flood our minds in so short a timeframe.
Sometimes we cannot stop it from being an annoying day or period in our lives but we can hold tight through the downward spirals and be patient. We have to keep at it.
On the upward spirals when everything is just falling into place and we feel grateful and celebratory we also cannot simply rest on our oars. We have to keep at it.
Whatever we are trying to create will tend to ask us to be mature enough to keep at it despite the ups and downs. As I work on a new business I reflect on this ever so often.
I cannot say I have figured out my life nor do I have to, but I can say I am learning to keep at it, to live with myself a little better. Good things will happen and bad things will happen but we have to keep going to get anything done.
As you keep at it through the cycles, you get better at recognizing and dealing with them. You keep investing in the processes and practices you need to be successful rather than the short term outcomes be they good or bad. You let the cycles come and go, each one a data point in the grand scheme of things – an opportunity to learn, grow and adapt.I wrote a journal to support you (and myself) in courageously sharing our gifts. Consider getting it by clicking here. I hope you will find it valuable.