Work and play

Late last year, I started trying out a new approach to using my time. My previous working style was to multitask so I might work, eat, work, call a friend, work, watch a show, work, go style my hair, work, check social media and before I knew it a whole day would be gone and the…
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Everything good will come.

That’s the name of a novel by Sefi Atta that I enjoyed. I think of that line from time to time. Everything good will come. When you’ve died and still come to life, when you’ve seen dreary winters in your life turn into a spring that grows flowers, you start to believe that. Last year…
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Building a resilient identity

– I had a very insightful conversation with a loved one the other day. We were talking about our concept of identity and what we build our identities around. We talked about how even things that are good in themselves  – success, beauty, knowledge, people skills – can become pitfalls if we wrap our sense of…
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Conjunctions complicate everything

“I cannot understand why you refused to come with us to kill that boy,” he asked Obierika. “Because I did not want to,” Obierika replied sharply. “I had something better to do.” “You sound as if you question the authority and the decision of the Oracle, who said he should die.” “I do not. Why…
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On dissonance and answers that cook slowly

. When I was in secondary school, one of my nicknames was “questionnaire”. I loved to question. I had a teacher who always told me that some of my questions would have to wait till senior secondary school, and to keep them in the oven. It felt so uncomfortable to have to wait another two…
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A few reflections on making the world better

      Human health, the environment, social isolation, food security, conflict, hurricanes, floods, shootings, the fate of American dreamers, racism, tribalism, jungle justice, terrorism, and who knows what else. There is always something going on in this world of ours. Sometimes I wonder if I am helping enough and then I wonder if I…
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Rationale

While we are the most rational of the creatures we know about, we are still mostly emotional. We act based on our prejudices, and weave the logic around them. If someone connects with our pain, or history, or promises us security in a shaky world, we could die for them. I have been thinking about…
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Good people

While we are born alone and die alone, having the support of others makes the journey better. And I say this as someone who loves a lot of time in her head and with herself. . It is not always easy to find the people we need. Sometimes it seems easier to find company in…
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Keeping at it

  Some days, I know life is beautiful. I’ve got this. I see the big picture. I see where I am driving the project. Something came through. I am proud of myself – see how far I have come, the wonderful people in my life, how much I have grown, I think with joy. I am…
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What I am learning about building sustainably

 . According to trusted Google, sustainability is:  . the ability to be maintained at a certain rate or level. “the sustainability of economic growth” avoidance of the depletion of natural resources in order to maintain an ecological balance. “the pursuit of global environmental sustainability” Sustainability can apply to many things. It applies to our relationship…
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